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In early 2011 Phoenix’s parents inform her they are unable to keep paying for the apartment and it would be best if she would move back home, this is when she began to show signs of distress. She would meet another man who works at the cellphone store also named Mike and eventually began to date him also. To keep the identity of her secret boyfriend hidden, Phoenix would purchase a burner cellphone outside of the family plan she shared with her parents. while she was in college, this relationship was completely hidden from her parents, she lied about her living arrangements, leading her parents to believe that she shared an apartment with a girlfriend, Goldia, always suspicious would go so far as to check the closets and inside the medicine cabinet, she would later state she never saw a clue that a male was living in the apartment with her daughter. She wanted to spread her wings and she would soon get the opportunity to do so when she enrolled into UMSL in 2007. Phoenix was longing to find freedom, she wanted to be out from under her mom’s thumb. When asked, well, isn’t that controlling? Goldia replies, “ I know what my job is, and that’s to keep my daughter safe that’s why God entrusted her to us.” Don’t be loud and vulgar, be neat, and carry yourself in a discreet manner, be ladylike because that’s what you are”. Goldia states she has a set of family rules that Phoenix should abide by: “God first, the family, sit up straight, a lady does not cross her legs, one over the other the reason being is you’re exposing your private areas. The Coldon’s were conservative and God-fearing people Goldia kept a tight grip on Phoenix her friends would describe her as being “very strict,” so strict that Phoenix was homeschooled and rarely allowed to leave the front porch with friends from the neighborhood. The family relocated to Missouri for Lawrence’s job, and they settle into a quiet neighborhood in Spanish Lakes. Lawrence Coldon marries Goldia and adopts a young Phoenix. Phoenix Coldon was born Phoenix Reeves in California to a then single mom Goldia Reeves.